Moderate LinkBacks

Ok I see I have a few linbacks I have to validate is that what I do validate then press save. Then I see a bunch of Outgoing LinkBacks it said succesful-NO do I reselect them and resend. Theres 3 options what do I do

cmon i'm a newbie help a brother out

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Outgoing is from you to another site. These don't require moderation.
Incoming is from another site to you. These do require moderation, and I would suggest keeping the VAST MAJORITY of them moderated. You should NOT approve most of these. Doing so will give you a bunch of external links to other sites. I recommend only approving the niche-leaders. Like, if you wrote an article about the ipod and techcrunch linked to you about it, I would approve that one. But if JoesElectronicsFroum did, i would simply leave it moderated.